Why Do People Abuse in the First Place?

Most people just think that people will abuse other people for no apparent reason, but in reality, there is reasoning behind it. Not an excuse, but an explanation. Abuse usually happens in a cycle, meaning that some abusers learned to abuse from their parents, it happened to them as a child, or they witnessed it as a child so they just played it out as an adult. It can also result from mental health issues or disorders. Alcohol or other drugs could also be why. And then there are the people that just do it to have to sense of power and control.  But no matter what the reason is, there is still never an excuse. 

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Long Term Effects on Women Because of Domestic Violence

There are several long term effects that may occur because of experiencing domestic violence and having been in an abusive relationship. The long term effects can include physical and or mental problems when they are older. The physical problems could include arthritis, hypertension, or heart disease because of being battered. Battered women also lose their jobs, due to an illness called, absenteeism. The illness occurs after being battered. The mental health is also affected because they lose contact with friends and family because they feel ashamed that the abuse happened.



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How it Affects Children that are Around the Abuse

When there is domestic going on in a household where children are at, it is an extremely bad environment for the children to be in. when the children are around domestic abuse between their parents, they see it, and it will be a big part of them. They will become very scared a lot of the time and get over anxious over small things. Seeing that type of abuse happen between the children’s own parents could be emotionally scarring for them. Getting away is a big thing that really needs to be done for the children who have to be around it.

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How to Get Help for Domestic Violence

If you are in an abusive relationship, experiencing any form of domestic abuse, you need to get away from this situation before things become worse, because chances are, they will not get any better. There are several ways to get away. There are several different shelters for battered women and children to go to, so that they are able to escape. You can go to the police and they will protect you, and could give you a restraining order on the abuser. There are also several hotlines that you can call to get advice on what you should do, but you should really try your best to get away from this situation.

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Why to Get Out of Abusive Relationships

If you are in an abusive relationship and are not sure how to get away from it, you do have more than one option. It is not something that will be easy to do, but if you are in an abusive relationship, than it will be worth it. Being in an abusive relationship is very unhealthy for you and anyone around it. If you have children, and they witness the domestic violence happening, it will have a strong effect on them as well and they, as well, need to get away from it. You will lead a much happier life if you get out of an abusive relationship and will have more respect for yourself if you gain the courage to get out of that situation.

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Why People Will Stay in an Abusive Relationship.

When you are in an abusive relationship, you will most likely be in denial that the abuse is actually happening. The person in the abusive relationship will never want to admit that their partner is abusive. People will also end up staying with people because they have been manipulated into thinking they don’t have the choice and that they will not have anyone better.  For married couples, the one that is being abused by their partner might stay in order to protect their children. Some will also stay with the abusive partner because they are financially dependent on their spouse.  They also might stay with them because they have built a life with that person and they do not know what they would do without them. They also might just be afraid to leave the person.

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Signs You're in an Abusive Relationship

There are several ways for someone to tell if they are in an abusive relationship. Some people will not even realize that they are in an abusive relationship or they are just in denial that it is happening. There is more than just one type of abuse. It can be emotional or physical. Some signs would be they humiliate or yell at you, criticize or put you down, ignore your opinions or accomplishments, blame you for his own abusive behavior, treat you as a sex object, get extremely jealous or possessive, control what you do or who you talk to, check up on you, make threats against you, threaten to commit suicide if you leave them. Those are just a few of several signs of an abusive relationship.

Think you may be in an abusive relationship, follow this link to a short quiz.

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